Well, I got this PIC programmer, and with the help of this guy from the microchip forums named Dario Greggio I got the PIC to act as an on/off toggle with the off action requiring a button to be held down for a few seconds.  I've since designed the PCB for the circuit.  If anyone is interested in the circuit, PM me for more details.  Getting a quantity of PCBs ordered would bring down the cost, greatly.  I will draw and post up the schematic here later.